Monday, January 23, 2012

New Trend: Engagement Registry

I was listening to a local radio station on my way to work this morning and they said there is a new trend starting up. Engagement registries. 

Huh? Well apparently newly engaged couples are starting up engagement registries, in addition to wedding registries. 

People on the radio thought it was absolutely ridiculous. They said they felt like it was the couple expecting more gifts and they most likely wouldn't get them both an engagement gift and wedding gift. 

I asked on twitter and the answers were pretty much the same. 

Mychael and I didn't do an engagement registry, didn't even know about it, but that was almost a year ago. 
We didn't even do an engagement party. It may sound completely stupid but as soon as we got engaged it was on facebook and the congrats came pouring in. We didn't really see a reason to have an engagement party. Just our choice. 

...personally I would feel awful doing an engagement registry. I guess I would feel bratty. I actually feel awful even going to do an wedding registry. I know that is completely ridiculous of me. I know it is a way to let your guests and those who want to buy gifts for you what you want or your style. 

I usually just send a card to the newly engaged couple congratulating them.

Have you heard of an engagement registry before? 
Do you have one, or will you have one when you get engaged? 

I found this list below on Pinterest, we'll be doing our wedding registration soon so I'll be looking at this.
Of course, any advise you can throw our way about registries is welcomed.
I have a feeling we will be completely overwhelmed.
I could see myself walking out of the store in two shakes. 

22 comments:

  1. I would say as long as you do number 6 (have a variety of prices), it's not as important to have exactly 3 different places (number 1). Just do what feels right - you don't have to register at 3 different places if you don't need to. I had a friend that registered for very similar things at 3 different stores and I remember just thinking...why?

    Also, be prepared when you go - sales people can be VERY pushy. Which may not bother some people at all, but we registered at Bed, Bath and Beyond and it actually started to make me a little flustered by the end of it. Luckily, you can always add things online. This post is a good look at the other side of it - http://apracticalwedding.com/2011/11/confessions-of-a-bridal-registry-consultant/

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  2. We registered at 3 places - we had people in and out of state so wanted to make sure there were options for everyone.

    Also definitely do the different price points thing. My MIL went to BBB to get something off our registry and the girl there actually told her I had a great registry because it offered something for everyone's budget

    We actually liked registering, I involved hubs and had him add things that he wanted so he got excited when things he liked got purchased!

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  3. I did not have a engagement party either, being a military family its hard to have family and friends come to events so we decided having at the wedding would be better. I have not heard about an engagement registering until reading this. Im all about getting gifts but I think it's asking to much for that and wedding gifts.

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  4. I've heard people are starting to do registries for kids' birthday parties too, I'd never do one for my kids!

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  5. A lot of my friends had engagement parties and actually had their registry done prior to the party so it wasn't technically an engagement registry, which I agree, would be so strange and bratty. In fact, when they had their engagement party, they didn't even put the information on where they were registered in the invite. If people asked, they said, but they wanted to leave it out so people didn't feel obligated.

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  6. I think having an engagement registry is just awful! How tacky! Same with the "birthday party" registries and I'm sorry I have a problem with house warming party registries too! I get and accept wedding registries and baby registries but anything more than that is just greedy!

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  7. I've never heard of this! We usually send a card or bring a bottle of wine to an engagement party, something simple!

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  8. Hmm, We didnt do engagment presents. Just had an amazing party!!
    I love our wedding registry though its perfect!!

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  9. Some people will get you gifts or cards when you get engaged or have a party but that's their choice, in my opinion. I think it's a little nuts to expect people to bring you a gift for your enagagement party! If you have an engagement party, I think it's def a celebration and is great but to register for gifts I think is pretty tacky

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  10. When I saw you post that this morning I was shocked! How on earth do normal people expect engagement gifts, shower gifts and wedding gifts! That's just way too much. Especially in this economy.

    I like the idea of an engagement party (minus the gifts) if your wedding is more than a year after the engagement but anything sooner is asking too much out of your family and friends.

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  11. What?! I've never heard of an engagement registry before! I wouldn't do one...it seems to greedy to have an engagement one AND a wedding one. Unless you do one and not the other i guess, but still. Kinda weird haha.

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  12. I haven't heard of that till now and we didn't have an engagement party either. I don't think I would give a gift to someone with that registry....what about if they break up....you never know how long people's engagements will last. We were engaged almost 2 years before our wedding this past August.

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  13. Wow an engagement registry is just a bit much. I didn't even have a wedding registry.

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  14. I might be dumb but I don't get what an "engagement registry" is. Like you just register for stuff you want while engaged??

    Hubs and I registered during our engagement and received gifts from it even until one year after we were married. And that whole rule of not putting it on your invitation is a must... I find that really tacky. That's what bridal showers are for!

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  15. I've heard of engagement registries...and think they are highly tacky! Sure, you want people to know your style. But expecting both a wedding present and an engagement present is so greedy!!!!

    I've gone with a few people as they've registered for wedding gifts. My only advice is to try and register on a weeknight to avoid the weekend crowds and to go slow. Have a list of things you want before you walk into the store. :-)

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  16. We did not have an engagement party!!! But when we had a couples shower, we didn't really register for that much stuff, in my opinion. I have seen registries that are PAGES upon pages long!!!

    I think it is totally up to the couple as to what they want, but I don't think I would have done an engagement registry.

    I really agree with the tips you posted!!!!!

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  17. Shew, just thinking about wedding registry stresses me out! I don't understand the whole engagement registry?! I've never even heard of that! Btw- thank you for posting top ten registry tips! So need that in the future!!

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  18. Honestly, I think this just goes to show what kind of society we have and what this world is coming to. I'm sorry...but engagement registries, birthday registries, etc?!?! Wedding registries are always a must and are expected, but what happened to just getting a nice gift from someone and appreciating the gesture?

    Great post though, hope you have fun when you go to do your registry! We went to Bed, Bath & Beyond and definitely felt rushed and were frustrated with our salesman...but we also did a Honeymoon registry and that was great!

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  19. People these days! Don't most people usually have the wedding registry ready before the engagement party anyways?

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  20. I feel the same way! I think engagement registries are absolutely ridiculous and tasteless. When I got married, we registered at Target & Pier 1 and our parents had to beg us to put a couple expensive things on there so people could have the option to buy a bigger gift together. I think in that sense, with the couples expectations, weddings aren't what they used to be anymore. I get invited to showers and look at the registry and see $100 gravy boats. That is just so tacky and pretentious to me. But to each their own I guess. That's a great list to post!!!

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  21. I've never heard of engagement registry, and if I did, I probably wouldnt do it. But to each their own and I'm not one to judge.

    New reader/follower :) Getting married in September 2012, happy to follow you along on your journey!

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  22. My hubby and I didn't have an engagement party nor a wedding, boo hoo..hahaha. I'd probably do the wedding registry but not an engament.

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